And the spark of attraction was immediate. They quickly learned that they were compatible in a number ways, especially in the bedroom.
One problem, however, as Roy regaled me with the news one night over martinis was that Seth was still mostly in the closet. Seth worked in a highly conservative faith community, and he desired to continue his work, but also wanted to live freely as a gay man.
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Of course, in the heat of their immediate spark with each other, Seth did not want to disclose this fact about himself, because he assumed it would be problem. And, he was correct. Roy was frustrated. Here, he had worked to overcome so much, and the first man who really resonated in his dating pool had an issue that reminded him of his past. Roy and Seth talked it out, and they came to an agreement that they would not let this issue stifle their passion for one another, but that at some point they knew it would be an issue that would have to change.
This ability to recognize the tension around the issue, and to table it, allowed them to foster even greater intimacy. As passion gave way to love, Seth discovered that he wanted to make a change and come out.
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And, with support from Roy he could do so. Roy and Seth are now married.
Now, I am not promising any fairy tales if one chooses to pursue a closeted relationship. If anything, I am promising the reader that it most certainly will be a roadblock at some point to the future opportunity for any relationship to grow and sustain beyond just sex.
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